So my partner and I did it over a couple of days to help make it easier, and yes he went very slow but no lube was used, unfortunately. We also used condoms, so maybe the friction could've created more tearing? Sorry about my terminology! Im not exactly sure on the correct terms, but she didn't diagnose me with anything, just said I was very small. Im just concerned because although my mom is the best mom I could ask for, she is not aware that Im currently sexually active she knows im on BC but thinks Im waiting for at least a couple months and I would like it to stay that way until im ready to tell her.
Again, not heavy bleeding, just spotting. Should I go to a doctor if it goes on for more than a week? Thanks again for your responses! Unread post by Heather » Fri Feb 19, pm No worries about terminology bits: just trying to make sure I know what you're talking about, and that you have sound language and frameworks for yourself. That GYN was not someone sound.
NO GYN practicing ethically, and with sound education, would say something like that or treat you like she did. A penis will not "tear anyone apart. I think this is perhaps someone who wants to try and scare young women away from sex, honestly: that's usually what's up when healthcare providers seem to forget all of their education and the Hippocratic Oath and say things like that. And if and when injury is caused with penis-in-vaginal intercourse, it is either due to assault or due to things like a partner being aggressive when you're not aroused enough, not using enough lube, etc.
Even then, a serious injury is unlikely outside of with assault. There also isn't such a thing as a "smaller than usual" vagina. The vaginal canal is flexible and doesn't have a static size. I have no doubt that given how anxious you were, and how you were treated, you were tense as hell, which makes just about anyone's vagina more inflexible and tighter -- and thus the opening will look smaller than it does otherwise.
But a credible GYN knows that, and also knows there is no such thing as a "bigger" or "smaller" vagina. I'd suggest you toss anything that GYN said to you out, because we know from the way she was talking to you and treating you that she's simply not credible. I think -- no surprise here! I'd do what you can to ditch them. For sure, if you didn't use any lubricant -- especially when using condoms, as your bodies haven't evolved to create the extra needed with them -- you likely got some abrasion, which is why you bled.
A tear of the vaginal opening is a pretty severe injury, not something minor like this sounds to be, and again, that is only likely to happen with something like assault. Taking time over a couple of days -- especially when my sense is you two haven't taken months of having other kinds of sex, including things like fingers in your vagina -- might have made you emotionally more comfortable, but physically, that isn't really going to do anything. Learning to relax our muscles -- including of and around the vagina -- is something that can take more than a couple of days.
I respect your desire for privacy -- having great parents doesn't mean a person doesn't want to keep some or all of their sex life private! But spotting from the pill and some bleeding with vaginal abrasion are both not something that require care. I mentioned fever because were you to get an infection from the abrasion, you'd start feeling overall bad like that. Too, as I recall, you started the pill mid-cycle, yes? If so, this may well be breakthrough bleeding, at least in part, because if now would have been around the time you would have expected a period BEFORE you started the pill, it would be typical for someone who didn't do a first-day or Sunday start to have spotting like that, or just get a withdrawal bleed in the first pack of pills or two more around the time their period was due than at the time that lines up neatly with the placebo week.
In the meantime, by all means, I'd take a pass on sex with genital entry until the bleeding stops. And next time around, you want to be sure to have lubricant handy and to use it quite liberally. I'm happy to talk with you about other things you can also do to better assure you don't get any kind of injury with intercourse AND that it's more likely to feel good, if you'd like.
Unread post by linsey17 » Fri Feb 19, pm I appreciate your response and advice so much! As much as Ive tried to disregard what shes said, I cant seem to get it out of my head. Of course it frightened me and I don't want to feel guilty about practicing safe sex ,which it has since that appointment. I'm a naturally anxious person, so the bleeding coupled with what she said, and the symptoms of the pill, freaks me out.
Ill really try to forget about anything she said and go to a more credible gyno. We've been dating for over 6 months and have done a lot of other things other than PIV, but like you said, there has been no fingering. The sex wasn't rough at all and we eased in to it so Im thinking its probably an abrasion like you said.
Ive had mild cramping and nausea but I know that's because of the pill because its been going on a week before I had sex although the cramping has gotten a little worse. Ill take close watch of my body and if the bleeding worsens, Ill get to the gyno a much better one, lol! I did start the pill about a week after my period ended, so I should've gotten my period around 5 days ago. I read somewhere that sex can trigger your period, so I'm not sure if something like that happened? Whether or not your vagina is producing enough natural lubrication, it might be a good idea to use lube anyway.
Using lube can reduce friction and scraping inside the vagina. You might want to prepare for anal sex by using an enema , which cleans the lower part of your rectum. Enemas can provide peace of mind, which is important because the next rule of anal sex is to relax. This could make it difficult to penetrate, which can cause pain and bleeding. Communicate with your partner and give yourself enough time to get aroused.
This will help you relax. In every sense of the word, go slowly. Take time with foreplay. Pushing something in quickly — regardless of what it is — can be painful. To minimize your risk , you can do the following:. If you want to avoid pregnancy, talk to a doctor or other healthcare provider about your contraceptive options. Excessive bleeding after sex can also be caused by STIs. Certain STIs could cause inflammation in your genitals, which can lead to bleeding. While some people bleed the first time they have sex, not everybody does —and there are ways to reduce the chances of bleeding and pain.
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Having a stretched or torn hymen does not necessarily mean a woman has lost her virginity. The hymen can also stretch or tear quite easily before a woman has sex for the first time, through: activities such as horse riding and other sports using tampons masturbation A woman may not know her hymen has stretched or torn, because it does not always cause pain or noticeable bleeding.
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